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Meaningful Monday: Be a Realist

Now isn’t the time to be the pessimist, complaining about things that we have no control over. It also isn’t the time to be the optimist, believing that things aren’t as bad as they really are. Today, we all need to be realists. We need to accept the situation we are in and adjust our behaviors accordingly. We are struggling in the midst of a global pandemic, yet there are some who still don’t seem to understand that we are in a crisis. They just don’t get it. I don’t know if they are optimists or just stupid, but in today’s world, there is only one thing that matters: to accept the reality of the crisis and adjust to be safe. We must save ourselves and others around us. We must be real and accept reality. That is what a realist does.

It isn’t over, not even close. It may just come back next fall. What am I talking about? COVID-19. The respiratory illness that is killing thousands and sickening hundreds of thousands of people in the USA. It is world wide, we’re not the only ones suffering. We all need to be unified in our response, all around the globe. That can only happen when we all become realists.

I’m not saying that we shouldn’t work towards a better world or better situation. We should! We should also do things in our daily life that reflects our realistic outlook. Things like:

  • Wear a face mask when you go out
  • Avoid gathering
  • Stay home whenever possible
  • Sanitize and wash your hands as often as possible
  • Shop sensibly
  • Use delivery or curbside service whenever possible
  • Use touch-free checkout options when you must go inside the store
  • Plan for long term difficulties in the economy
  • Plan for long term difficulties in the healthcare system
  • Only go to the doctor/urgent care/ER when absolutely necessary
  • Use telemedicine when possible
  • Plant a garden. Even if it is on your windowsill, grow something to eat. It’s nutritious and good for your emotional health
  • Take especially good care of yourself and be careful in your daily life. This will help prevent additional strain on the healthcare system. Act as if you have absolutely zero access to a face to face doctor appointment until you get to the point that you really do need it.
  • Educate yourself about COVID-19, our healthcare system, and things you can do to minimize your chances of becoming infected.
  • Educate yourself about ways to maintain self-reliance with less reliance on the healthcare system and commercial shopping system so you are ready when you can’t get your hands on things you are used to.
  • Help out others who need it… shop for elderly neighbors, donate to research to find a cure, do anything to help without putting yourself at risk
  • Use video calls to keep in touch when you can. It helps to feel more connected when you can see each other, especially when we can’t actually be together physically.

There’s a wealth of other things we can all do. We all must do our part. When we all see the situation as it really is, we can all work together to build a better world for us all.

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About Depression…

I wrote a rather long response to someone on Facebook today. She was asking about how other people handle hard times, chronic illness and depression, and how to help her Mom with the same problems she is having with feeling depressed. I thought it might be something good to share here, as well…

I have and continue to fight the depression. I just **refuse** to allow it in.

I do have anxiety that kicks my butt sometimes whether I like it or not. LOL. I have too much to keep going for to let depression in. Sure, I hear it knocking on the door sometimes. I just don’t answer. When the thoughts start, I stop it. I do something… ANYTHING… to keep my mind away from that.

Once it starts, it is harder to get out of that hole so I work hard to not fall in it to begin with. What I don’t do is bottle up the emotions and refuse to acknowledge them. That gets you into big trouble further down the road. I know when life is hard, frustrating, sad, angering, and I allow myself to feel it but there’s a fine line between feeling it and working through it and getting stuck in that hopelessness of depression.

There’s ALWAYS hope and I choose to focus on that. If I can’t find it within myself. I look at my kid and my dogs. Seriously. I get a lot of hope and joy from them. I talk to friends. I listen to soothing music or get lost in a crazy movie (nothing sad, usually exciting action movies!).

Yes. It is ridiculously hard.

The tendency to depression is a chemical one in the brain, not just emotional. That is why I focus on physical things that bring joy, or on something highly stimulating like an action movie that triggers the release of other chemicals in the body to override the depression chemicals and I attempt to continue to seek that alternative-chemical release for a while to keep it going until it is easier. Kinda like using an antidepressant but not taking a pill for it.

There’s always SOMETHING that can bring hope but you have to choose to see it and to focus on it instead of other things as much as possible. I had to learn to always find the silver lining, to ALWAYS look at the positive and to force myself to smile through the pain.

Last year, I suffered a loss that was just… ugh. It was horrible. It was so hard to climb out of that hole from it but I did find a way, and had to also lead my son out of his own hole too. The only way I made it was by finding the good left in life, to find the beauty around me and things that made me smile. Even a little. And then build on that.

Never give up. Never surrender. Even to your own depression. Fight, fight, fight.

You are strong and you can do this! And maybe take your Mom to see Aquaman or something! LOL! Seriously.. those good hormones and chemicals from the action movie will help, even if for a little while, and give you both a chance to start the process of climbing out of your own depression holes.

Jason Momoa in tights helps too 😉 LOL! Hugs to you, sweetie! You are NOT alone and you CAN do this! No go conquer the world 🙂